Co-Sleeping. Do You Admit You Do It?

Here is a post I really wanted to share.

Co-sleeping is often frowned upon, something I have never understood. I am cognoscent of the dangers of course.  Yet I have cosleepingoften co-slept with all my three children at some point or other.  Usually so that we could all get some sleep.  I don’t feel any discomfort in saying so either.

Trying to get our babies, toddlers, children to sleep at night can be such an awful trial and I think it’s why so many parents end up putting their child(ren) in bed with them.  But why do so many feel that it is not acceptable to admit this?

I remember discussing with work colleagues the nightmare time my husband and I were having with our 2 year old who woke every night at least 4 or 5 times.  My husband and I were at the end of our tethers.  My colleague seemed mystified and I asked how he had managed to cope.  He said that in his culture the children slept with the parents until they are 4.  At this age they then often wanted to have there own bed.  They experienced no sleeping or co-sleeping problems.

Our 12 month old still sleeps in her cot which is side-cared to our bed.  This is by far the best solution.  It means she is close enough to reach out and reassure.  She can see and hear me.  I can easily scoop her up when it is time to feed and just as easily place her back when feeding is finished. No need for a basinet or moses basket or feeding chair for that matter.  Just a feeding pillow.

But I have no hesitation in leaving her beside me is she will not settle.  I love cuddling with her and feeling her soft breath on my cheek as she sleeps.  I love to look at her and admire every precious and gorgeous curve of her face as she lies next to me.  It’s one of the greatest experiences of being a parent.

Here is Amber from viewpoint.

Why I Co-Sleep

On Wednesday, my son Jacob and I appeared on the local CBC evening news, in a story about co-sleeping. Because I am a co-sleeping parent. When I was initially contacted about the story I spoke with a producer who mentioned that she herself had co-slept. All the same, I assumed that some other source would also be interviewed for the story, presenting an anti-co-sleeping message.

I agreed to participate, because I thought it was important to speak out on behalf of co-sleeping parents. I believe many more parents choose to co-sleep than are reflected in statistics on the subject, and I believe that the vast majority of us are not doing it flippantly. I wanted to give voice to that. However, I feel that I was portrayed as being almost dangerously irresponsible. My friend Lorien took up the call with the CBC on behalf of all co-sleeping parents, and you can see her thoughts on how co-sleeping was portrayed.

The truth of the matter is that, in spite of dire warnings from the BC Coroners Service, I’m not entirely sure that I buy the argument that co-sleeping is unsafe. For one thing, as John Hoffman and Annie of PhD in Parenting outline, when a baby dies in an adult bed there is no distinction made between a safe co-sleeping environment and an unsafe co-sleeping environment. Just as a crib filled with stuffed toys and pillows can be unsafe, an adult bed filled with the same things can be unsafe. The difference, though, is that if an infant suffocates under a pillow in a crib the pillow is blamed, and if an infant suffocates under a pillow in an adult bed co-sleeping is blamed.

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